HOW TO CONTROL AND OVERCOME YOUR ANGER
A lot of people still find it hard to control their anger. This can be dangerous. The Holy Spirit of God expressly says that it is not easy for some people to forgive. The truth is, anger is a nature that can be nurtured. It is also a rage that can be managed. God can be angry; but He has a great power to control His anger. For God does not retain His anger forever. The Bible says, "The LORD is slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love, forgiving iniquity and transgression....." (Numbers 14:18 ESV). Now, how can you control and overcome your anger? The Word of God (the Bible) is very effective in this; therefore, meditate on it. And it will change your soul (i.e., mind, will and emotions). Biblically, anger can be controlled through the following:
1. Great understanding
"Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly" (Proverbs 14:29 ESV).
Great understanding of the situation and circumstances makes a way for you not to react and act immediately. For example, Mr War was just joking about the lifestyle and behaviour of Miss Peace. He was just trying to make her angry. And he just wanted to hear and see her feedbacks and reactions. Then Miss Peace who had a great understanding overcame and handled this.
In that sense, great understanding makes you to greatly understand the person's ways, words, opinions and reasons for the provocation and irritation.
"A fool is quick-tempered, but a wise person stays calm when insulted" (Proverbs 12:16 NLT).
Your attitude determines your reactions and actions. Similarly, it determines how you respond to the situation and circumstances. Whoever has a negative or bad attitude will do foolish things. But, whoever has a positive or good attitude deals wisely.
For this reason, change your thinking. And change the way you see people, things and events. Similarly, have a positive or good attitude towards people, things and events (some are not meant to make you angry; stop taking things personally)!
3. The tone of your voice
"A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger" (Proverbs 15:1 ESV).
An extreme anger is called wrath. A person who is slow to speak will also be slow to anger (see James 1:19-20). When someone provokes you, try to talk slowly and gently; this will turn away your anger. The low tone of your voice will surely help in this case.
4. Cool spirit
"Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than who takes a city" (Proverbs 16:32 ESV).
To have a cool spirit is to be humble in spirit. Those who are meek do not always become angry. In other words, they are slow to anger. Meekness involves gentleness and humility. This will take away your anger.
Learn how to be quiet when the provocation comes. Listen to the person point of view. Reserve and keep back your words. Count to 15 before you react and act. Be silent; calm down by taking deep breaths. In addition, just in case you overreacted, then apologise immediately and take a walk.
"Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs" (Proverbs 19:11 NLT).
Self-control leads you to think before you react and act. It keeps you under control! It involves having total control over your emotions, thoughts, feelings, reactions, actions and desires. Self-control will not allow you to do some things you had love to do! A wise person will think deeply before he/she reacts and acts.
Ask yourself at this time, "Will God be happy and be pleased with my reactions and actions?" Then overlook the offence by being wise, so that your reactions and actions may not lead to an evil damage, or something else. Therefore, forgive and forget about the wrongs of someone. Be merciful (see James 2:13; Colossians 3:12-14). And let love rule over your spirit; for love covers all wrongs (see Proverbs 10:12).
In conclusion, happy memories and experiences can also be used to overcome anger. It makes you to smile and laugh. "A glad heart makes a happy face; a broken heart crushes the spirit" (Proverbs 15:13 NLT). Trust in the Lord Jesus Christ with all your heart, so that you can be free from hot anger. He is the only one who can give you a joyful heart. Stay rapturable and be prepared. Jesus is on His way!
LET US PRAY:
Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I thank you for dying for my sins and resurrecting on the third day. Come into my heart and take full control over my life and attitude towards people, things and events. I believe in you that you can remove every form of madness and bitterness away from my life. Give me a loving and forgiving heart, and also give me the power to control my anger. Release unto me the Spirit of power, love and self-control. Oh Lord, I need your joy and meekness, so that I can overcome the devil's trap of anger, in Jesus' name. Amen.