Everybody talks about sex. The media promotes it through adverts. Some institution supports it as a means if abstinence cannot be done through the useof contraceptives. Sex now involves an activity that can be carried out between two or more persons. In recent times, discussions about sex usually raise an eyebrow among the discussant. No one would want to talk about his or her sexual life in the public because the act is sacred - private. Except for the morally loose people who are not shy to discuss their sex life, it is meant to be a sanctified act between only two people who are legally married as the Creator originally designed it. Is having sex a crime? Why am I told to wait until I get married? God has his answer to the question and the devil also has his own explanation. This would bring us to the truths and lies about sex.
Lie #1: Rather than abstain you can indulge, just be faithful to one partner (Premarital Sex)
Truths: God has given each and every one of us the willpower to do and not to do. However, there is a provision of grace upon you when you set your mind not to indulge in sexual acts until marriage. Do you know the harm it brings is more than the pleasure derived? To a lady that engages in premarital sex, first, it may lead to unwanted pregnancy and if you think you
are smart, you go for abortion, which is murder. Secondly, you may become victim of sexual transmitted diseases such as gonorrhea, staphylococcus, syphilis and other diseases; guys too are not spared. Guilt, shame and emotional bondage will creep into such life. Immediately after the act, the guy gets dissatisfied and starts looking for another avenue to explore
making him to be looking for another bed mate (fornication). Are there any gains in premarital sex or abstinence? Count both cost.
Lie #2: If you don't want to practice premarital sex, try masturbation or use sex toys Truths: Since the media are now encouraging the use of sex toys, it has become an eye opener for people as an alternative to having sex. Those who masturbates often become addicts the act even when they are married. The females excite themselves with candles, vibrators and likewise the males with their fingers. These, in the long run become a spirit to battle with. They lose their loved ones as a result of the act. Damage to their sexual organs is inevitable. The females would have their womb damaged due to incessant use of the toys. There is lack of concentration as a result of the act in the minds of the perpetrator. The judgment of God is fierce upon on all whore mongers (Heb. 13:4b).
Lie #3: Don't think you are immortal; everybody is doing it, even... Truths: When all the nations and languages of the earth, all bowed to the idol of Nebuchadnezzar, the three Hebrew boys; Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego did not compromise their faith in God (Dan. 3). In this generation, where it is believed that everybody is having sex, you can be among the millions who are not defying their bodies. They still choose to remain a chaste even when it is not encouraged, an old fashioned or seem impossible. The next sexually pure person can be you. Believe you can do it and God will give you the grace. It saves you from emotional trauma, heart breaks and evil soul ties. Do we still have people who have not bowed to the
world's image of premarital sex? Make yourself available.
Lie #4: It is better to watch sex films or see explicit pictures (pornography) than to practice sex Truth: Well, it may have sounded true if Christ had not told us that "Whosoever looks on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart" (Matt. 5:28).
One thing about what we feed our mind with is that they tend to pollute and corrupt our entire being. Watching sex films, would increase one's sexual urge to commit the act. Nothing motivates a person to have sex other than what he/she has programmed into the mind relating to sex. Pornographic materials usually get one's attention from focusing on productive things. It ruins marriages and breaks relationships. When you feed your mind with obscene items; the heart is corrupt.
Lie #5: You cannot be satisfied with a partner throughout your married life (Extramarital affairs) Truth: "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled, but whore mongers and adulterers will God judge" (Heb. 13:4). God will judge them because they have polluted their marital beds and altered His original plan for marriage when He instituted it.
However, the bible told us that, "But godliness with contentment is great gain" (1 Tim. 6:6). There is nothing as good as deriving happiness with a wife that you exchanged marital vows with. When bundles of promises are made, dozens of fantasies are created and love is promised to be kept. How disastrous would it be if all these ends unfulfilled?
Extramarital affairs makes their children to have divided upbringing, single parenting and lack of parental care. They become divorced, separated and their homes become broken resulting from infidelity, adultery and lack of trust.
Lie #6: Since you are told not to have sex, kissing, petting, fondling, romancing, hugging, necking, smooching is not that bad
Truth: "Flee also youth lusts" and "abstain from all appearances of evil" (1 Tim. 2:22;1 Thess. 5:22).
All the aforementioned acts would gravitate towards sexual intercourse. The devil is so smart that when petting starts, before you know it, kissing suffice, fondling and smooching comes into play not too long, and however, romancing is not far from committing the act. There is no need to start a race that you cannot finish, neither is it good to embark on a journey that you are not ready for.
Lies are distorted or altered truths which lacks ingenuity. Many people have been lied to, living their lives in falsehood. This has daring consequences on their marriages and relationship. Do not allow anybody to deceive you by joining the band wagon of sexually loose people. Chastity can still be achieved in this corrupt world. Dare to be different. Sexual purity has no effect on your life and marriage. It is a culture that is worth embracing and can be achieved. Do not believe these lies. Seek to know the truth and the truth shall set you free from the consequences of ignorance. written by (Mayowa Adeniyi) .